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Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 2/3/2010

Types: Columns

Dear Uncle Mat, I live in a cute fourplex near downtown San Antonio. A new gay guy moved in last month, and he is a great neighbor. He has totally cleaned up our little garden and has plans for a spring garden with fresh herbs and vegetables when the weather clears up. We (the residents in the ...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 1/27/2010

Types: Columns

I know I am a dumbass for letting this happen, but I think I am a dumbass with a reasonable complaint. I have been hanging out with the same girl for a while now. She is fun, funny, and a really good time, if you know what I mean. A few weeks ago while we were fooling around, I let her take a pictur...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 1/20/2010

Types: Columns

I am 22. I just graduated last spring with my undergraduate degree, and I am hopefully headed to graduate school next fall to pursue a master’s and possibly Ph.D. I have always been a very serious student and socially quiet person. I am working at an internship, and my parents are supporting me per ...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like famliy, without the baggage)

Published: 1/13/2010

Types: Columns

First, I want to say I sent this same question to another nat’l columnist, Dan Savage, but as I really want some outside sound advice on this, I am asking you, too, I guess to increase my chances of getting any response!! Well, a little over a year ago, I posed for photographs that would end up on ...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 1/6/2010

Types: Columns

I have a small personal and professional problem. I got a little drunk at our annual company Christmas party and slept with one of my supervisors. Since then we have had sex a couple of times a week. We have been friends since I started at the company and have regularly hung out and even run togethe...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 12/30/2009

Types: Columns

I finally did it. After concluding that every single guy I knew had at one time or another dated other girlfriends of mine (a common problem in San Antonio, I suspect) ... I broke down and entered the online dating pool. But that’s not what I’m writing about, that’s actually going pretty w...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 12/22/2009

Types: Columns

Welcome to Uncle Mat’s How to Entertain and Be a Holiday Winner Series, part two. Today we are discussing how to throw a holiday party on a budget. It’s a little late for a Christmas do (unless your friends are also procrastinators with few family obligations, in which case, get busy) but there is s...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 12/9/2009

Types: Columns

Welcome to Uncle Mat’s “How to Entertain and Be a Holiday Winner Series,” part one. In today’s segment we will discuss how to stock a home bar for simple happy hours with two to eight guests. If you are an alcoholic and will drink all the booze you place in your home as fast as humanly possibl...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 12/2/2009

Types: Columns

As today is the Saturday before, it is too late to ask you to save my Thanksgiving, but I am hoping you can save Christmas. I live with my partner of three years, and we will be spending both holidays, as we always do, with her family. This includes both of her parents, her stepparents, three g...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 11/25/2009

Types: Columns

Me and my boyfriend are planning on moving to a new city next summer. We’ve been best friends for over a year before we started dating. The only problem is he wants to date other people when we move. We’ve never exchanged “I love yous” or whatnot, but he has talked about one day opening a bar togeth...[MORE]

DEAR UNCLE MAT: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 11/18/2009

Types: Columns

I moved in with my boyfriend last year. I work in a nonprofit and he is a techy guy in a big company with a big paycheck. He has recently started to nag me about going back to grad school — something I want to do, but I have debts and expenses and love my job right now even though it doesn’t pay cra...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 11/11/2009

Types: Columns

Our circle of friends has suffered a very decisive split. Two guys who were in a long-term relationship since we have known them broke up. One of them had an affair with an acquaintance of mine who has recently been hanging out with all of us. He isn’t, or wasn’t, even gay. There are seven of us who...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 11/4/2009

Types: Columns

There is no other way to put this than I am lonely. The holidays are upon us, and I am single for the first time in more than seven years, and I do not know what to do. I broke up with my boyfriend last May because I felt we were not going anywhere. We were fighting over small things, and he had let...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 10/28/2009

Types: Columns

I’m obese. Well, I don’t think I am, but my doctor says that I am. I understand that I’m not the skinniest I’ve been; I’ll admit, I’ve let myself go. But obese?! Come on!  I weigh 157 pounds and I’m 5’ 3”.  I’ve told my friends that my doctor says I’m obese, and they can’t believ...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 10/21/2009

Types: Columns

Lately I’ve been so lost I have no idea what to do. I’m a college student with a baby boy and a baby’s daddy. But I’m still not happy. I want to do things for myself and not have to depend on him or anyone else. I have a great personality and I want to be a professional photographer, but I am not ou...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 10/14/2009

Types: Columns

What do you do if in the past you have received alcohol-related citations — as you will in your life here on planet earth unless you’re not human — and you stand in front of four tickets still pending and the judge comes up with 18 more? This is what happened to me in the recent past. The judge coul...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Matt: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 10/7/2009

Types: Columns

I was just wondering: I am tired of my job that I’ve been at for six years. Believe me, I’ve been trying to transfer out but with no progress. Why is it so hard to move up? I’ve even been taking courses for my bachelor’s degree in business administration. I’ve also been very interested in working on...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 9/30/2009

Types: Columns

I’m a 23-year-old male living in San Antonio. I’ve been in trouble in the past (law, drugs), but I’ve changed now. I work full-time for my family business and go directly home after work to avoid getting into trouble. I’ve started working out and going to my parents’ church regularly.   ...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 9/23/2009

Types: Columns

I am in need of advice, or a reality check. I am a recently out 22-year-old stud. I have been “doing it right” since JV football, though, so I am only new to the scene. I’m just a BooBoo looking for his Yogi. I am attracted to older guys, which only bothers my mom and some friends. I met this guy wh...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 9/16/2009

Types: Columns

I started dating my best friend two months ago, and it’s great! We hang out all the time, our friends are really supportive, and we just enjoy each other’s company. The problem is he’s looking at moving this winter to another city. He really hates the town we live in now (Lubbock, yuck!) and wants t...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 9/9/2009

Types: Columns

I’ve got two women in my life, one pt whether I like it or not who’s also bipolar by her own admission, and the other who I rarely see, who’s also w/ someone she’s not even interested in but hangs with him for security reasons ; (The one I’m really interested in, C. (the second of the two) came from...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 9/2/2009

Types: Columns

Here is a question for you: The guy you have been dating for over a month now invites you to join him at a nudist camp for the weekend. Do you go? I knew he was a nudist, but I didn’t realize that he would ask me to join him so soon, or ever, I suppose. Neither h...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 8/26/2009

Types: Columns

How do I know if my dog is pregnant? - Confused Dear Confused, After this little puppy-pregnancy debacle has passed, please have your dog fixed. If you want puppies, visit any of the local shelters and pick out a poor, homeless, sad, cute puppy who cries hi...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 8/19/2009

Types: Columns

I am dating two guys, and I really like them both. I want a boyfriend, but I’m not sure how to handle this situation. Each one has their good and bad points, but mostly great points. This would be a cool situation to follow through and discover which one develops into a relationship, but they both s...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 8/12/2009

Types: Columns

WTF do I do? Bexar County probation’s UA contractor is crooked, as we ALL know. Do I refuse 2 submit 2 drug tests now? Duh. HELP! Treatment Associates is obviously inept when sampling drug screens. — A Mad Probationer, Gettin’ Screwed by a Bexar Dear Screwed by a Bexar, Even with my o...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 8/5/2009

Types: Columns

One of my coworkers and her husband want to have sex with me. They are a little younger than me and newly married, but do this “all of the time” according to her. She told me that I’m the one they want, but I can bring another woman if I want, or they know another woman if that would be easier. This...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 7/29/2009

Types: Columns

I am a guy heading into my junior year of high school. I consider myself to be happy, although at times I tend to reflect on the fact that I haven’t been involved in an actual relationship. Although I realize the joy I derive from my experience in high school isn’t entirely dependent on being in a r...[MORE]

Dear Uncle Mat: (like family, without the baggage)

Published: 7/22/2009

Types: Columns

Something doesn’t feel right in my life right now, but everything seems to bother me so I can’t figure it out. Here are a few things that have happened; maybe you’ll see something: It started a few months ago when my boyfriend of five years started acting really different. He’s in the Army, and he’s...[MORE]