Savage Love: Quick and Dirty

I am a man who tends to ejaculate prematurely. Not all the time—but at least 50 percent of the time, I’m good for two to three minutes and then I REALLY have to be careful. I’ve learned to manage it and work around it (like, stop if I’m too close and eat her out to give me some time to relax, etc.), but it’s still a pain in the ass. I have a theory about this: I am not circumcised. I know that circumcised cocks are more desensitized, as they tend to rub on everything all the time. Could my problem be related to the fact that for the first 20 years of my life, the head of my cock had never been in direct contact with anything? And if not, are there tricks that exist to help me with this problem?
–Unexposed Nub Could Upset Timing

You’re already doing everything premature ejaculators are urged to do, UNCUT: You’re paying close attention to your arousal levels, you’re being careful not to rush past the point of no return (or past the point of “orgasmic inevitability”), you’re taking fuck breaks as needed and eating a little pussy (not recommended for gay premature ejaculators). Those are the “tricks that exist” to help guys like you, and it sounds like you’ve mastered them. And while the heads of circumcised cocks tend to be less sensitive, UNCUT, studies of men circumcised in adulthood have found no link between circumcision and premature ejaculation. Uncut guys are no more likely to have problems with premature ejaculation, and cut guys are no less likely.

I’m a straight, vanilla 29-year-old woman, happily married to a kinky bi guy for six years, together for 13. He is free to sleep with other men, and I consider myself GGG—turning him on turns me on. You can do the math: I married my high-school sweetheart. (It wasn’t planned that way—we’re not religious—we just happened to get super lucky on the first try.) My husband has a cuckold fetish, and we role-play all the time. I would really love to make this fantasy a reality! My question is: How/where the fuck do I find someone? I don’t want to pick up some random, since I want to be as safe as possible, and I haven’t dated since I was 16. I feel completely lost. I just want to cuckold my husband! Why can’t there be an app for that?
Non-Experienced Wife Begs You

You’re in luck: There is an app for married people who want to cheat on their partners—with or without their partners’ permission—and I’m pretty sure you’re already familiar with this particular app, NEWBY, as it’s been around for a while. It’s called “The Internet.” This app can direct you to websites for cheaters (Ashley Madison), websites for kinksters (FetLife), and regular dating websites where married people in open relationships are free to advertise for new partners (OkCupid).

I have a couple of relatively close friends who prefer to use gender-neutral pronouns, which they define to be “they/them/their.” Now, I wouldn’t have a problem with this, and I know people will often use “they/them/their” in regular speech when they are unsure of gender or want to include all genders, but it really makes speaking English awkward; “they/them/their” are all PLURAL, while “he/him/she/her” are SINGULAR. So for instance: “My friend Chris is going to the mall. I hope they has a good time.” The sentence is confusing. I’m okay with the idea of people being gender-neutral, but I also think following the rules of grammar is important, since language is probably the most important way of communicating.
–Got Good Grammar

“They” can be used as a singular pronoun—Shakespeare did it—but if it makes you crazy, GGG, there’s a simple solution to your dilemma: “My friend Chris, who prefers gender-neutral pronouns, is going to the mall. I sure hope Chris has a good time.”

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