Introducing Ask Aliyah

“The chicken is lousy” I heard my mom say to my dad.  I was in their kitchen while they were sitting down for dinner, she had tried a new recipe and before even asking my dad for feedback on his first bite, she spoke what she knew to be the truth – the chicken was lousy.  She mentioned to my dad that next time she would approach the recipe differently, make a few changes with the sauce; reduce the cooking time.  I was 22 years old.  My mom died a few weeks later.  I am not sure if she ever had the chance to try out that chicken recipe again, but, I am a vegetarian and we ain’t talkin’ about chicken.

“The chicken is lousy.”  With those words I learned the importance of being an honest, forthright, deliberate and unapologetic communicator.  We are definitely no longer talking about chicken.  My mom recognized she had a problem, she could have ignored it, lied about it or fooled herself into thinking the meal was without it’s issues.  Sometimes ignoring, lying and fooling come the easiest, but in the long run, the risk is that we slowly lose ourselves in keeping up with the charade.

So that is where I get it from, I am unabashedly straightforward yet completely sincere.  And that is why I am here, bring me your troubles where ignorance, lies or foolery just won’t cut it.   Relationships, parenting, office spats; they’re all in.  Each Sunday I will introduce a few readers to a manageable, clear, type-A solution that they must follow, word for word.  After all, there is no use in communicating if you are not realistically speaking.

Send your questions to [email protected] and look out for Aliyah's advice every Sunday!

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